Logan was on TV today. Channel 10 WBNS did a story on Step by Step Academy, as well as a family with an autistic child. When they showed some of the things they do at the school, Logan was one of the students they showed on TV. From what we've been told, he was really good for the taping, and behaved himself. I watched the story at work with a couple of people, and I was proud. I'm very proud of him and the progress he has made.
If I can get the link to a video of it on the WBNS TV's website, I'll post it here.
Tuesday, August 21, 2007
An Autism List
One of my friends who lives in Mass sent me this. I think this is so true, and people need to stop and think about this before they criticize the parents or assume the child is undisiplined.
Thanks to my friend Nikki for sending this:
Here are 10 things every child with autism wishes you knew.
1. I am a child with autism. I am not "autistic." My autism is one aspect
of my total character. It does not define me as a person. Are you a person
with thoughts, feelings and many talents, or are you just fat (overweight),
myopic (wear glasses) or klutzy (uncoordinated, not good at sports)?
2. My sensory perceptions are disordered. This means the ordinary sights,
sounds, smells, tastes and touches of everyday life that you may not even
notice can be downright painful for me. The very environment in which I
have to live often seems hostile. I may appear withdrawn or belligerent to
you, but I am really just trying to defend myself. A "simple" trip to the
grocery store may be hell for me. My hearing may be hyperacute. Dozens of
people are talking at once. The loudspeaker booms today's special. Muzak
whines from the sound system. Cash registers beep and cough. A coffee
grinder is chugging. The meat cutter screeches, babies wail, carts creak,
the fluorescent lighting hums. My brain can't filter all the input, and I'm
in overload! My sense of smell may be highly sensitive. The fish at the
meat counter isn't quite fresh, the guy standing next to us hasn't showered
today, the deli is handing out sausage samples, the baby in line ahead of
us has a poopy diaper, they're mopping up pickles on Aisle 3 with ammonia.
... I can't sort it all out, I'm too nauseous.
Because I am visually oriented, this may be my first sense to become
overstimulated. The fluorescent light is too bright. It makes the room
pulsate and hurts my eyes. Sometimes the pulsating light bounces off
everything and distorts what I am seeing. The space seems to be constantly
changing. There's glare from windows, moving fans on the ceiling, so many
bodies in constant motion, too many items for me to be able to focus - and
I may compensate with tunnel vision. All this affects my vestibular sense,
and now I can't even tell where my body is in space. I may stumble, bump
into things, or simply lay down to try and regroup.
3. Please remember to distinguish between won't (I choose not to) and can't
(I'm not able to). Receptive and expressive language are both difficult for
me. It isn't that I don't listen to instructions. It's that I can't
understand you. When you call to me from across the room, this is what I
hear: "*&^@, Billy. ..$&^amp;*" Instead, come speak directly to me in
plain words: "Please put your book in your desk, Billy. It's time to go to
lunch." This tells me what you want me to do and what is going to happen
next. Now it's much easier for me to comply.
4. I am a concrete thinker. I interpret language literally. It's very
confusing for me when you say, "Hold your horses, cowboy!" when what you
really mean is "Please stop running." Don't tell me something is a "piece
of cake" when there is no dessert in sight and what you really mean is,
"This will be easy for you to do." When you say, "It's pouring cats and
dogs, " I see pets coming out of a pitcher. Please just tell me, "It's
raining very hard." Idioms, puns, nuances, double entendres and sarcasm are
lost on me.
5. Be patient with my limited vocabulary. It's hard for me to tell you what
I need when I don't know the words to describe my feelings. I may be
hungry, frustrated, frightened or confused, but right now those words are
beyond my ability to express. Be alert for body language, withdrawal,
agitation, or other signs that something is wrong.
There's a flip side to this: I may sound like a little professor or a movie
star, rattling off words or whole scripts well beyond my developmental age.
These are messages I have memorized from the world around me to compensate
for my language deficits, because I know I am expected to respond when
spoken to. They may come from books, television or the speech of other
people. It's called echolalia. I don't necessarily understand the context
or the terminology I'm using, I just know it gets me off the hook for
coming up with a reply.
6. Because language is so difficult for me, I am very visually oriented.
Show me how to do something rather than just telling me. And please be
prepared to show me many times. Lots of patient repetition helps me learn.
A visual schedule is extremely helpful as I move through my day. Like your
day planner, it relieves me of the stress of having to remember what comes
next, makes for smooth transitions between activities, and helps me manage
my time and meet your expectations. Here's a great web site for learning
more about visual schedules
http://www.cesa7.k12.wi.us/newweb/content/rsn/autism.asp
7. Focus and build on what I can do rather than what I can't do. Like any
other human, I can't learn in an environment where I'm constantly made to
feel that I'm not good enough or that I need fixing. Trying anything new
when I am almost sure to be met with criticism, however constructive,
becomes something to be avoided. Look for my strengths and you'll find
them. There's more than one right way to do most things.
8. Help me with social interactions. It may look like I don't want to play
with the other kids on the playground, but sometimes it's just that I
simply don't know how to start a conversation or enter a play situation. If
you can encourage other children to invite me to join them at kickball or
shooting baskets, I may be delighted to be included.
9. Try to identify what triggers my meltdowns. This is termed "the
antecedent." Meltdowns, blowups, tantrums or whatever you want to call them
are even more horrid for me than they are for you. They occur because one
or more of my senses has gone into overload. If you can figure out why my
meltdowns occur, they can be prevented.
10. If you are a family member, please love me unconditionally. Banish
thoughts such as, "If he would just ..." and "Why can't she ... ?" You
didn't fulfill every last expectation your parents had for you, and you
wouldn't like being constantly reminded of it. I didn't choose to have
autism. Remember that it's happening to me, not you. Without your support,
my chances of successful, self-reliant adulthood are slim. With your
support and guidance, the possibilities are broader than you might think. I
promise you I'm worth it.
It all comes down to three words: Patience. Patience. Patience.
Work to view my autism as a different ability rather than a disability.
Look past what you may see as limitations and see the gifts autism has
given me. I may not be good at eye contact or conversation, but have you
noticed I don't lie, cheat at games, tattle on my classmates, or pass
judgment on other people?
You are my foundation. Think through some of those societal rules, and if
they don't make sense for me, let them go. Be my advocate, be my friend,
and we'll see just how far I can go.
I probably won't be the next Michael Jordan, but with my attention to fine
detail and capacity for extraordinary focus, I might be the next Einstein.
Or Mozart. Or Van Gogh.
They had autism too
Thanks to my friend Nikki for sending this:
Here are 10 things every child with autism wishes you knew.
1. I am a child with autism. I am not "autistic." My autism is one aspect
of my total character. It does not define me as a person. Are you a person
with thoughts, feelings and many talents, or are you just fat (overweight),
myopic (wear glasses) or klutzy (uncoordinated, not good at sports)?
2. My sensory perceptions are disordered. This means the ordinary sights,
sounds, smells, tastes and touches of everyday life that you may not even
notice can be downright painful for me. The very environment in which I
have to live often seems hostile. I may appear withdrawn or belligerent to
you, but I am really just trying to defend myself. A "simple" trip to the
grocery store may be hell for me. My hearing may be hyperacute. Dozens of
people are talking at once. The loudspeaker booms today's special. Muzak
whines from the sound system. Cash registers beep and cough. A coffee
grinder is chugging. The meat cutter screeches, babies wail, carts creak,
the fluorescent lighting hums. My brain can't filter all the input, and I'm
in overload! My sense of smell may be highly sensitive. The fish at the
meat counter isn't quite fresh, the guy standing next to us hasn't showered
today, the deli is handing out sausage samples, the baby in line ahead of
us has a poopy diaper, they're mopping up pickles on Aisle 3 with ammonia.
... I can't sort it all out, I'm too nauseous.
Because I am visually oriented, this may be my first sense to become
overstimulated. The fluorescent light is too bright. It makes the room
pulsate and hurts my eyes. Sometimes the pulsating light bounces off
everything and distorts what I am seeing. The space seems to be constantly
changing. There's glare from windows, moving fans on the ceiling, so many
bodies in constant motion, too many items for me to be able to focus - and
I may compensate with tunnel vision. All this affects my vestibular sense,
and now I can't even tell where my body is in space. I may stumble, bump
into things, or simply lay down to try and regroup.
3. Please remember to distinguish between won't (I choose not to) and can't
(I'm not able to). Receptive and expressive language are both difficult for
me. It isn't that I don't listen to instructions. It's that I can't
understand you. When you call to me from across the room, this is what I
hear: "*&^@, Billy. ..$&^amp;*" Instead, come speak directly to me in
plain words: "Please put your book in your desk, Billy. It's time to go to
lunch." This tells me what you want me to do and what is going to happen
next. Now it's much easier for me to comply.
4. I am a concrete thinker. I interpret language literally. It's very
confusing for me when you say, "Hold your horses, cowboy!" when what you
really mean is "Please stop running." Don't tell me something is a "piece
of cake" when there is no dessert in sight and what you really mean is,
"This will be easy for you to do." When you say, "It's pouring cats and
dogs, " I see pets coming out of a pitcher. Please just tell me, "It's
raining very hard." Idioms, puns, nuances, double entendres and sarcasm are
lost on me.
5. Be patient with my limited vocabulary. It's hard for me to tell you what
I need when I don't know the words to describe my feelings. I may be
hungry, frustrated, frightened or confused, but right now those words are
beyond my ability to express. Be alert for body language, withdrawal,
agitation, or other signs that something is wrong.
There's a flip side to this: I may sound like a little professor or a movie
star, rattling off words or whole scripts well beyond my developmental age.
These are messages I have memorized from the world around me to compensate
for my language deficits, because I know I am expected to respond when
spoken to. They may come from books, television or the speech of other
people. It's called echolalia. I don't necessarily understand the context
or the terminology I'm using, I just know it gets me off the hook for
coming up with a reply.
6. Because language is so difficult for me, I am very visually oriented.
Show me how to do something rather than just telling me. And please be
prepared to show me many times. Lots of patient repetition helps me learn.
A visual schedule is extremely helpful as I move through my day. Like your
day planner, it relieves me of the stress of having to remember what comes
next, makes for smooth transitions between activities, and helps me manage
my time and meet your expectations. Here's a great web site for learning
more about visual schedules
http://www.cesa7.k12.wi.us/newweb/content/rsn/autism.asp
7. Focus and build on what I can do rather than what I can't do. Like any
other human, I can't learn in an environment where I'm constantly made to
feel that I'm not good enough or that I need fixing. Trying anything new
when I am almost sure to be met with criticism, however constructive,
becomes something to be avoided. Look for my strengths and you'll find
them. There's more than one right way to do most things.
8. Help me with social interactions. It may look like I don't want to play
with the other kids on the playground, but sometimes it's just that I
simply don't know how to start a conversation or enter a play situation. If
you can encourage other children to invite me to join them at kickball or
shooting baskets, I may be delighted to be included.
9. Try to identify what triggers my meltdowns. This is termed "the
antecedent." Meltdowns, blowups, tantrums or whatever you want to call them
are even more horrid for me than they are for you. They occur because one
or more of my senses has gone into overload. If you can figure out why my
meltdowns occur, they can be prevented.
10. If you are a family member, please love me unconditionally. Banish
thoughts such as, "If he would just ..." and "Why can't she ... ?" You
didn't fulfill every last expectation your parents had for you, and you
wouldn't like being constantly reminded of it. I didn't choose to have
autism. Remember that it's happening to me, not you. Without your support,
my chances of successful, self-reliant adulthood are slim. With your
support and guidance, the possibilities are broader than you might think. I
promise you I'm worth it.
It all comes down to three words: Patience. Patience. Patience.
Work to view my autism as a different ability rather than a disability.
Look past what you may see as limitations and see the gifts autism has
given me. I may not be good at eye contact or conversation, but have you
noticed I don't lie, cheat at games, tattle on my classmates, or pass
judgment on other people?
You are my foundation. Think through some of those societal rules, and if
they don't make sense for me, let them go. Be my advocate, be my friend,
and we'll see just how far I can go.
I probably won't be the next Michael Jordan, but with my attention to fine
detail and capacity for extraordinary focus, I might be the next Einstein.
Or Mozart. Or Van Gogh.
They had autism too
Saturday, August 11, 2007
Status
It's been a little while since I last posted. Things have just gotten really busy for me. Logan is doing good. He still isn't potty trained yet, although I'm still hopeful. He's doing well in school. His teachers praise him on how well he does with his goals.
One issue that we seem to be having with him is repetative motions. Shaking his hands, and twitching of his eyes seems to be the focal points. It's something we are watching closely to see if there is another issue that would be associated with autism.
The school is having their grand opening in a couple of weeks. I'm looking forward to that. They are having a chocolate festival, games for the kids and sibilings and a whole bunch of things. That weekend will be a fun weekend.
One issue that we seem to be having with him is repetative motions. Shaking his hands, and twitching of his eyes seems to be the focal points. It's something we are watching closely to see if there is another issue that would be associated with autism.
The school is having their grand opening in a couple of weeks. I'm looking forward to that. They are having a chocolate festival, games for the kids and sibilings and a whole bunch of things. That weekend will be a fun weekend.
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